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U.S. News assesses hospitals every year for the quality of their maternity services. You may not live near one of the 100 best hospitals posted in their annual report, but at least you can read about the information they collect to rate the hospitals listed. U.S. News has just released their 2022 report.

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I was interviewing a friend about her pregnancies. She made a statement that took me back a bit.  My longtime friend of 30 years who was the oldest sibling had the responsibility of taking care of her brothers and sister.  She had no fear about taking care of a baby because she already had the experience of taking care of twins.  The words that came out of her mouth widen my eyes followed by the natural response of “What did you say”?

My friend was sitting at the table when she felt a prick in her lower region near the hairline.  She told her husband sitting there with her when she looked at him and said, “I am pregnant!”.

I have heard many stories very similar to my friend.  Women have claimed that they knew right away when they conceived. My friend said that she felt the same symptom with two of her children but not with the third.  He was a surprise.

As I pondered on her comment, my mind flooded with articles that I have read in the past.  Women who are pregnant and they do not even know for months.  This launched me into research about this phenomenon.  Here is what I found; some women are really in tune with their body.  We react to symptoms every day of our lives as the body signals us about changes.  Even Doctors will ask you, “So, what is going on?’  When we over work ourselves, the body feels tired and sore.  Our body speaks to us every day if we are listening.   The body can speak softly, or it will shout to us in order to convey what is happening inside of us.

I came across more than one article on this topic.  Professorshouse.com, explained my friend’s experience with two of her children as a “pinching sensation”.  This first symptom of conception, if not missed, can take up to 4 or 5 days for the sperm swim toward an egg in order to fertilize an egg.  When this match is made, the newly bonded couple will need to travel to their new home called the uterus.  Once they reach the Uterus, the PH balance of your uterus lining has to be just right for the survival of the newly paired entity. If the body decides to produce the needed HCG hormone in order to take care of this couple, the sperm and egg partnership will “firmly implant” themselves into the uterine wall.  At that moment, conception that women may feel has occurred.  Now, the fertilized egg and the woman becomes one by a pinch.

There are other symptoms of conception that you may feel:

  1. A strong pinching sensation in the lower abdomen
  2. A feeling of fullness or hardness in the lower abdomen upon conception due to hormone changes.  It may feel like a bladder infection so this symptom could be missed.
  3. Tiredness shortly after conception. The hormone changes use up a lot of energy from your body to keep and to grow that implanted egg and sperm.
  4. Hunger changes can happen the same day of conception. Energy needs fuel and sometimes that fuel will come from weird cravings of food combinations.  Remember, your body is telling you what you need if you are listening.
  5. Increase discharge and pelvic pain that feels like cramps. Your body talks to you every month prior to conception when you menstruate. This is no different. Just like your monthly menstruation, the body activity is moving around and preparing for the discharge.  Conception is no different.  You’re lining and pelvic changes are due to the hormones produced preparing for the growth of your baby.
  6. Breast and cervical changes will be affected by the hormone changes too. Breast will become tender; the nipples will darken.  Your doctor can see your cervix turn bluish during pregnancy.

When researching this topic of conception sensations, I found articles that do not support the concept of knowing the moment you conceived.  Even my friend that I interviewed said, the last child was a surprise.  Whether or not your experience during this magical time coincides with the knowledge of conception or not, you can journal all of your experiences to share with your children later in life.  Your doctor appointments can confirm your perceptions of your body. Do not be disheartened or afraid to share your thoughts and feelings, whether it is in a journal or with your doctor.  This is your magical time.

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I recently spoke with Paulette Smith about the benefits of journaling during your pregnancy and after you deliver your baby. It may well help you with your feelings of being overwhelmed by it all. These feelings contribute to the depression you may feel after your baby is born.

Much depression is dependent upon your environment and the feelings you have about your environment. If you feel hopeless, if you cannot manage or think you can’t manage, these are some of the reasons that depression—and suicide—creep into your thoughts.

Journaling is an opportunity to consciously think about what we are grateful for. Research shows that journaling can decrease your anxiety level, decrease your risk for depression, and increase your self confidence.  My podcast on journaling describes how you might want to share your journal with your doctor.

Women don’t often think about journaling when they are pregnant or struggling with taking care of a new baby. Perhaps you should consider giving it a try.

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I had a friend that tanned during the warm summer months.  It was so cute to see her evenly tan baby bump.  When she gave birth, her tan became darker as the stretched skin sprung back.   Have you ever wondered if it is ok to tan while you are Pregnant?  There are studies out there that link UV rays with folic acid deficiency.  Have you ever wondered if you would be more susceptible to burning or a pigment change?  These are questions that you can discuss with your physician.  Perhaps, monitorization of your folic acid will be needed or a suggestion of self-tanning sprays or creams as long as you don’t inhale the midst floating in the air.  It is important to double check the active ingredient in all tanning products.  A high concentration of dihdroxyacetone may be found in some products that carry caution for you during this time.  It is encouraged to wait on tanning until the after your first trimester for safety reasons.  In that first trimester, you baby is developing the nervous system, the heart, face, arms and legs, muscle movements and more.  A good discussion with your physician will keep you informed of the do’s and the don’ts.  Tanning beds and sauna’s can raise your temperature like a hot day out in the sun.   I pulled a few articles for you to take with you to your appointment to discuss with your physician.   It is a new adventure for you and your baby, enjoy your pregnancy with safety.

Is it safe to go tanning while pregnant? | BabyCenter

Pregnancy and Tanning – American Pregnancy Association

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Managing high blood pressure is the best way to prevent strokes. A hemorrhagic stroke results from the rupture of a normal blood vessel from blood pressure which is too high.

There are also ischemic strokes caused by a clot or plaque closing a vein. An ischemic stroke is much less traumatic than a hemorrhagic stroke. In an ischemic stroke, the blood is shut off in a small area by a clot or plaque. This type of stroke is generally less destructive than a hemorrhagic stroke.

If your blood pressure is high during your pregnancy, your doctor could prescribe apresoline (a kind of vasodilator) to lower your blood pressure. However, apresoline tends to raise your heart rate, so propranolol is often also prescibed at the same time to lower the heart rate.

Both the apresoline and the propranolol have been available for many years. They are effective, available, safe, and cheap medications for lowering blood pressure during pregancy.

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Today most women breast feed because there are numerous benefits for both mother and baby. The colostrum the baby gets with feeding before milk comes in is rich in antibodies and supports immunity. For mom, the oxytocin contracts the uterus and the prolactin promotes the mother’s sense of well being and promotes the milk let-down. And then there’s the bonding for both mother and baby.

At birth, the baby only needs to have its mother’s colostrum. If a baby hasn’t learned to latch on at birth, it is very important for mom and baby to learn how to accomplish this. Place the baby’s lower lip on the lower part of the areola and nipple at the baby’s lips. Sucking is a very basic instinct. Babies like to suck on everything, including their toes.

A baby should double its weight in 6 months and triple it at one year. So an 8-lb baby should weigh 16 pounds at 6 months and 24 pounds at a year. How long you choose to breast feed your child is up to you. Breast feeding is very personal and flexible. My grandparents talked about a child in their community who breast fed until he started first grade.  I had a friend who breast fed on only one breast for three years. The child would ask for breast milk. There are no set rules for how long to breast feed. You and your child decide.

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Each stage in a woman’s life brings its own challenges, Sleep can be one of those challenges during pregnancy. Hormone levels begin within the first trimester. Fluctuating hormones can cause discomfort in areas of weight, fluids, restless legs, Gastroesophageal Reflux and Obstructive Sleep Apnea. Dreams can be very vivid and disturbing. All these things can disrupt your sleep. Both you and the baby need the rest. Did you know that “Sleep plays a major role in memory, learning, appetite, mood and decision making”? These vital functions are the very reason you have chosen to have your “pregnancy your way”. The collected habits and behaviors that we choose to promote during this precious time can promote a positive rest for both you and the baby. Be sure to consult your physician or midwife before taking any herb or medications to aid in sleeping. Remember you are making decisions for two. I listed an article below on this very topic so you can make an informed decision and a strategic plan for the best outcome. Make yourself proud with your performance!

Pregnancy & Sleep: Tips, Sleep Positions, & Issues | Sleep Foundation

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As time goes on, the mother can experience interruptions to their rest. Whether it is frequent urination, heartburn, hormone changes or just trying to find a comfortable position. Many of us struggle to shut off the activities of the day or the worries of tomorrow. It is ok to give yourself permission to take care of yourself during this season of your life. Perhaps, decorating your bedroom for comfort with a serene atmosphere. Perhaps, cute shades to darken the room. Whether low lighting or fluffy body pillow or not, it is important that you get enough rest! Mayo Clinic has an article on this topic. It covers the causes and effects of lack of sleep. There are some tips for you to follow to help you to enjoy your magical time.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/in-depth/sleep-during-pregnancy/art-20043827

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Luke Kervin asked me to tell him five things I wish someone had told me before I became a doctor. If you’ve grown up in a family of doctors, you sort of know what to expect. However, I didn’t have doctors in my family, so I was sort of going it alone. I have seen the practice of medicine change profoundly in my 40 years of practice, and to my mind, not for the benefit of patients. That’s why I developed this web site, so women and their families can ask questions and have access to information about how they can make their pregnancies and deliveries safer. You can read Luke Kervin’s article at

<https://medium.com/authority-magazine/dr-alan-lindemann-5-things-i-wish-someone-told-me-when-i-first-became-a-doctor-5cc37f3b6471>.

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One of the things I learned as a student and resident, is that in obstetrics you can have a lot to say about your outcome. In other words, you can pick your outcome much of the time—not all of the time—but certainly about 90% of the time. Pregnant women so often feel they shouldn’t question the expert, the obstetrician. My goal is to provide pregnant women a safe arena where they can freely ask questions about their choices in their pregnancy and delivery. I can’t offer you medical advice, but I can tell you about my experiences with the 6000 babies I delivered.

In today’s medical environment, it is very difficult to raise questions about your choices of care. I want to encourage women to have the confidence to trust in themselves and the decisions they make about their care.

Obstetrics isn’t about disease.

It’s about preserving your and your baby’s good health.

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